Getting The Sex You Want: A Woman's Guide to Becoming Proud, Passionate, and Pleased in Bed - Softcover

“Reading this book is like having your own personal coach and cheerleader. You will find the wisdom and support to help you enjoy more vibrant relationships and make more informed choices in today’s complex world—whether you are a grandmother or just starting out on your sexual journey. Here are the latest medical updates along with smart how-to’s to help you move beyond ‘Just Say No’ messages to discover the power of saying ‘Yes’ to the pleasure you deserve.” —Gina Ogden, Ph.D., author of Women Who Love Sex

“Finally, women have fresh opportunities to rekindle their desire, and this book gives them some unique guidance. It canvasses the best of the current research on female sexuality, interviews dozens of adult women of all ages about their sexual lives, and offers women marvelous ways to enhance their lives in the bedroom. If you seek a rewarding journey in this fundamental aspect of human living—sexual pleasure—read this entertaining and authoritative book.” —Dr. Helen Fisher, author of The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They are Changing the World

“Laced with real-world stories and the honest and touching words of women at different stages of life, this book traces the journey of sexual discovery from girlhood to old age. Filled with loads of accessible and useful information, the authors provide readers with a wonderful means of creatively enhancing their sexual lives. With a rare mixture of sound information and gentle guidance, this book invites women to take on a new set of the three Rs—Relax, Respond, and Relish your sexuality!” —Dr. June M. Reinisch, director emerita, the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction

“Leiblum and Sachs provide readers with an array of information on women thinking about, experiencing, and particularly expressing sexuality. The tone is conversational, direct, and energetic; the language spicy. The message is one of determined optimism that women can embrace their own sexual lives.” —Julia R. Heiman, Ph.D., professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, University of Washington School of Medicine

“As a woman who has dedicated the past thirty-five years to seeking and teaching sexual pleasure, Getting the Sex You Want is on my ‘must read’ list.” -- Betty Dodson, Ph.D., author of Sex for One

omes with a big shiny bow wrapped around it: a present that promises the ultimate physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual fulfillment, but once the box is open, everything’s in pieces and there are no instructions.”
―From the Introduction

Why are so many women so unhappy with their sex lives? How can they kindle―or rekindle―their interest in sex and get the satisfaction they deserve? After a quarter of a century of research, writing, teaching, and counseling men, women, and couples, psychologist and sex therapist Sandra Leiblum, Ph.D., and sex educator Judith Sachs know that sex is a conundrum for most women.

At various stages in their lives, women find themselves in a gulf between fantasy and reality. They may want pleasure but have no idea how to go about getting it. They may be uncomfortable with their bodies, too tired at the end of the second shift, bored with the same-old same-old, but ambivalent about sexual risk-taking. Still o